That is an episode title of one of the most moving episodes of MASH for me. In the episode, Hawkeye (portrayed by the immortal, Alan Alda), goes ballistic when he finds out that with the Korean conflict trudging on, the Army changes the rules on the number of points required for a soldier to get rotated home. And it hits him hardest because he’s been there longest of anyone: Potter, Winchester and Hunnicutt show up 3 or 4 seasons in. Burns gets sent home via season tickets to Section 8, and Blake gets killed. The only other two characters that have been on since the beginning is Father Mulcahy, but as a man of God, he’s not taken by acts of physical violence (his words), and Margaret Houlihan, who’s less of a hot-head than Pierce (and who’s completely overtaken by another crisis; her impending divorce).
So after downing a martini and tearing out of the Swamp, playing gas can soccer with Margaret, Hawkeye jumps into a jeep and goes right up to the peace talks to give them a “peace” of his mind. In the encounter at Panmunjom, where the Korean Peace talks take place, Hawkeye instructs them (in his boiling anger, somewhat abrasive manner) to find common ground, because there’s too much at stake for them to keep stalling. I felt like this episode was especially poignant this day in age, for a number of reasons.
There’s no doubt that we’re all tired of the brokenness of our world and our society. No matter where you fall on the political spectrum, the negativity coming out of Washington, wafting through out our local communities, up and down our Facebook feeds, and just about everywhere else. There’s bigotry, insensitivity, ignorance, narrow-vision, disrespect, hatred, fear, confusion, ego-centrism, and lots of ideas, and opinions and hot air. There seems to be a palpable lack of kindness, understanding, listening, conversing, honest dialogue, and agreeing to disagree amicably. And it seems that common ground is all but gone, because we’ve stopped trying to establish it, or are just wearily ignorant of the common ground that is right in front of our noses.
And this decline of morality and decency comes at a time when we face a trifecta of catastrophic crises: 1). the worst pandemic in 100 years, and in which there is no end in sight, let alone a lack of acceptable, or viable plans to combat it. 2). The biggest call for social justice reform since the 1970s and 3). The greatest economic crisis since the Great Depression. This has also created a fourth crisis: in which this country is more polarized and divided, with an ever widening chasm between Republican and Democratic, conservative and liberal, and scores of other issues that divide us.
I always find that the first step to dealing with an issue is knowing its history (i.e. why are we here and how did we get here?). Let’s start with the social justice issues. Not to re-quote myself (see my other post, Why is America still Racist?), but racism isn’t something that we just discovered. Before the pandemic, we had cultural rifts in this country. Despite things being said to the contrary, the war against racism hasn’t been won. It’s not even close. Battles have been won. Steps have been taken….big steps in fact. But the journey towards achieving a society where all people are created equal, both in the law and in our hearts, is far from over. There are those who live in privilege, who claim that things have come far enough, but they are blinded by their privilege. This is not necessarily their fault; we’re all victims of the limits of our perspective, and imagination. They can’t imagine what it’s like to live in a society where you appear to have the same rights as anyone else, yet the color of your skin makes you a second-class citizen. Or depending on where you go on vacation, the color of your skin makes you have to reconsider how late you walk home at night. I’ve lived that; it’s not a fun feeling.
Our country’s discriminatory issues have been like a bad bout of relapsing remitting multiple sclerosis, whereas a slow progressive degradation of the whole, can be masked by with certain short-term solutions that never truly address the underlying cause. Because of this, and an unwillingness to really address the underlying cause meaningfully, the issue keeps coming up because we haven’t solved it. There are systemic discriminatory issues all throughout our society. And they must be addressed. I abhor violence of any kind, so its hard to stomach violent riots, and people getting hurt, but the reality is that a violent war has already been started. As long as people of color are proportionally murdered, discriminated against, and kept “down” the shots have already been fired. So it’s hard to blame the rioters for returning violence with violence. They’re desperate for change, and so far nothing else has worked.
But, violence against violence reminds me of one of my favorite of King’s many wonderful quotations: “Violence for violence darkens a night that is already devoid of stars.” Which means we need to resume peaceful dialogue. Or dialogue of any kind. Where everyone honestly listens, analyzes, and assesses. Where we are no longer concerned with our own position but the position of someone else. Because America can be the land of the free and the home of the brave. Put another way, we can be the country where we can have our cake and eat it too. We can honor veterans, while calling for changes to our society to make things better for everyone. We can acknowledge (albeit reluctantly) that our country isn’t perfect, and its degree of perfection has nothing to do with the number of brave soldiers who have given their lives to defend it. But that the idea of the country, is worth defending even in its imperfection, as we seek to create a “more perfect union.” If we can create a society where everyone wins, then everyone wins. And if everyone wins, America wins. We are stronger if there are more people prospering. We are a better, more humane country, when everyone has a fair shake. And we can accomplish it, if we think outside of the box enough and examine both sides of the extreme views of stakeholders in this fight.
Not caring about each other is also why we’re still in this pandemic. The rest of the world has figured out how to beat this thing, yet some US states are continuing to have daily infections rival the number of infections in some other countries. If we all cared about each other (and we had a government that lacked so much dysfunction that it chokes its own productivity), masks would’ve been a necessary mild inconvenience to save another human being. We must be less selfish. There are scientists who say we could’ve beaten this is 8 weeks at the beginning of the summer if we’d just stayed locked down longer. That means we wouldn’t be wondering if it would be safe to go back to school.
And science….we need to stop the war on science. Probably the most popular dissent to listening to scientists is that the media and big business has science in their pocket. Ironically this assertion is usually made by those whose party ideals have been commandeered by big business for far less. This may be true, but how can we start trusting each other again? Scientists are some of the most selfless individuals that I’ve ever met….just try starving for your ideals and it shows the mark of those ideals. I have a colleague who often uses the term “stay in your own lane.” We have experts amongst us in society who all play a role. We are experts in some areas, and the last thing we want is someone coming into our lane. Thou shalt not do it to someone else.
The most ideal society is made up of those who have talents and experience in various areas who work together for the greater good without bias. Who trust each other to make the decisions based upon their expertise and good intentions. Unfortunately, there’s so much corruption these days (and its everywhere) that its hard to trust anyone to be able to do the right thing. Can we trust the police to fairly uphold law and order, and to use extreme force only when absolutely necessary? Can we trust politicians to pass laws and make decisions that are truly in our best interests? Can we trust ministers and priests to lead us to the promised land? Can we trust teachers to take care of, and educate adequately, our children and the future of our society?
The answer is often placated upon the stipulation that everyone must be good, and that everyone does what they are supposed to do, and evil and human error are non-existent. I would content that the answer is yes despite there being evil and human error in play. We can hold each other accountable and instill a sense of restorative justice, that rewards growth and learning, above perfection, while still trusting each other’s intentions. The minute we lose faith in each other is when the evil wins. Because evil will always find a way to punch holes in our paradigms, no matter the extreme measures that we take to stop it. Because in order to beat them, we have to become them, and the price of losing ourselves, our souls, the soul of goodness, is too high a price to pay. But there’s an old saying that goes “the only thing that is necessary for evil to flourish is for good men to stay silent.” We can’t stay silent, but we can hold each other accountable without losing the inherent trust and by establishing a means of learning and growth.
Stay good, my friends. That’s the only way to move us forward.